You've got two ears and one mouth, use them in that ratio!
Today I thought I would challenge myself, and share my experience with this as this is something I've been terrible at for ever!
How do you become better at listening?...
1. Men listening vs Women listening
First things first, as a man you may find this very difficult. (Trust me I know!)
There is listening to another man, and there is listening to a woman.
As natural problem solvers guys offer solutions(we fix shit!), whilst women like to talk about their day, their problems, and their feelings. - If you offer a solution to these problems, you're "not listening"!
(She wants empathy, someone who will listen, not a solution!)
If it's another guy however, jump right in with whats natural, fix that problem!
2. Win/Win Listening
If you be mindful and really focus on the other person, you can create a deep connection/conversation with the person.
Listening is a selfless sport that takes a lot of hard practice, its not all about you!
Nothing is less attractive than someone who is always "Me, me, me..." don't be that guy/girl!
What have they got to say? What place are they coming from?
3. Put your phone away
And other distractions - turn off the TV! etc...
Don't be a dick, if you want to be a great listener, focus!
Staring at your phone half way through a conversation makes you look like you don't give a shit!
Listening really has become a hard crafted skill with all of todays distractions! Top tip - Turn off your notifications on your phone!
4. Don't assume - Ask!
Never assume something about a person or their situation, ask them!
Another top tip, repeat the "situation" or issue back to them. - It shows you're listening, that you care, and you can paint a detailed picture in your mind and out loud!
5. Time to use your mouth - Carefully!
Share what you have, or may have, done in a similar situation.
Or even what someone you know has done, offer to put them in touch with that person - maybe they can help out?!
If you do refer them on, check up with them afterwards, see how they got on.
Todays top quote - "Great work comes from taking the time to question whats missing in our lives that the rest of the world would love too..."
Until next time,
Health, Fitness, & Wellbeing Fanatic, Certified Nutritionist, Successful Leadership Coach, Author, Blogger, YouTuber, & Traveller Fun loving, Don't take life too serious, Meet new people everyday kind of guy! Personal growth and Development addict!